The Intersection of Family and Societal Anxiety

Two recent books have broadened my perspective on my young adult life and the perception of my parents and ex-husband that I was a threat.  That perception led them to take steps that led to my arrest and to a 7 year long cutoff from my daughter and family. A book by Thorne Dryer about the 1960-1970’s in Houston and The Scientist and the Serial Killer by Lise Olsen about Dean Coril who murdered an unknown number of boys in the Montrose area (where I lived and ran a walk in crisis intervention center) discussed factors that illustrate the intersection of an anxious society and an anxious family.  Both of the books described a city government that viewed runaways and wayward youth as “throw away” children.  Police chief Herman Short both targeted youth for police brutality and failed to protect them from harm.  He did the same for those of us who ran grass-roots community organizations, the crisis intervention center, runaway house, and free clinics. It was hard for me to realize that what we were doing could be viewed as a threat, but various other factors described in these books would certainly have contributed to anxious reactions. 
            My uncle was a city councilman who knew how the mayor and police chief operated.  Even though Uncle Johnny was a “liberal,” he likely conveyed concern to my family.  My ex-husband’s best friends were a city policeman and local newscaster who also communicated to him their view of counterculture and “black power” organizations as threats to society.  Several of the Chicago panthers were from Houston and moved back to avoid jail there.  I worked with them to create a free clinic, a drug treatment program, and food pantry programs in the black wards. The crisis intervention program and the runaway house were protecting children from harm but we were also the target for police surveillance.  The underground newspaper office and the early Pacifica station were attacked, without protection from the police, who were later implicated in the bombing.  They were also involved in KKK activities.  My ex-husband won temporary custody of our daughter after I was arrested in a police raid of my home in which they planted marijuana. The arrest charges were dropped but only after I agreed to grant him temporary custody.  When he took our daughter out of the country, I lacked the family support or income to fight the court battle.  The year after they moved, a young black community organizer was shot by police and I realized that Houston was a dangerous situation.  It was soon thereafter that the Haight Ashbury Free Clinical recruited me to come out and help reopen the Clinic.  After doing that job, I moved to Baltimore to work and go to Antioch Graduate School.  
            The work with Bowen theory contributed directly to reconnecting with my family and to the reunion with my daughter.  These recent books about the history of Houston provided a further context for understanding societal forces that contributed toward real threats as well as to anxious focus on me as a threat during this time in my life. 

4 Comments

  1. Laurie Lassiter

    Victoria,
    I think you are on to something important here in examining the societal factors that affect and can often impinge upon individual and family functioning. I was 18 in 1968 and was deeply affected emotionally by the huge changes in economics, mating behavior, women’s role, the generational cutoffs, the assassinations, the Vietnam War, civil rights, and the rest, quite a list. Appreciate your personal story that can bring home the intersection of psychology and society factors. It is going on in my own marriage and family now, Gaza, my Lebanese husband, our Jewish friends, but at 75 it is different. Maybe Ann Nicholson will post again on the New England Seminar’s conference on Societal conference, our relationship to the land and each other, June 13 and 14. I’m excited about its program of presentations, and the increasing objectivity!

  2. Jim Edd

    Brava! You convinced me very quickly that I have not been paying enough attention to this intersection between societal systems and family systems.
    Thanks, Jim Edd

  3. Erik

    Good to get to know you better. I need to think about this one. Thanks.

  4. Stephanie Ferrera

    Victoria,
    What an interesting account of your experience in young adulthood in the turbulent 1960s. I appreciate the enlarged perspective that you bring as you reflect on that time of your life, and see the bigger pressures that were dividing families and the country. I am reminded of the Democratic Convention of 1968 in Chicago, just two years after the Open Housing campaign led by Dr. King revealed the level of reactivity around racial segregation. During the convention, Mayor Richard Daley was distraught as he saw the destruction and fires going on in
    the streets. In our present divided society, the process of fracturing into side-taking and polarization is mirrored in many families. Your point about the intersection of anxiety at the societal level and family level is well taken and well illustrated by your own example.

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